Everyone stumbles upon toxic friends in their lives. Many people you hang out with don’t have the best regards and intentions for you and don’t respect you. Luckily, it easy to identify those types of friends and distance yourself from them. These are a few signs that may indicate your friend is toxic and you probably shouldn’t spend too much time around them.
They Don’t Listen to You
A person who is truly fond of you and wants to have a genuine connection with you will be a good listener most of the time. If your friend always zones out when you start talking about something important to you or changes the topic quickly it is a sign they don’t really care about your opinions or your feelings.
They Are Difficult to Reach and Spend Time with
Good friends want to spend time with you. If your friend is hard to reach on their cellphone or social media, or if they always find excuses for not being able to see you or talk to you, it’s because they genuinely are not very interested in spending time with you.
They Are Not Happy for You
If whenever you accomplish something in your life, they seem indifferent to it, or maybe even react negatively, they probably are not happy for you because they don’t care much about your happiness and are maybe even jealous. Such a person is not someone who has good intentions towards you and it’s best to distance yourself from them. That is not to be confused with a friend who is not happy for you when you are in an abusive or a dangerous relationship, because those types of friends are good and want you to be happier.
They Are Constantly Making Fun of You
Yes, friends that are close often make fun of each other but they do it when they both know they are comfortable with it. And they both know that is not something meant to be taken too seriously or hurt anyone’s feelings. If your friend persistently makes fun of you even when you show them you are clearly uncomfortable with it, it’s because they don’t care about your feelings that much, and possibly even enjoy making you feel bad.
They Are Often Mad for Silly Reasons
It’s common to sometimes get in arguments with people who are close to you but if your friend always finds silly reasons to be mad, and you feel like you cannot please them whatever you do, it’s because they are either not emotionally mature enough, or they purposely act displeased to distance themselves from you.
They Don’t Respect Your Privacy
If you can’t trust them with keeping your secrets and find that whenever you tell them something in confidence suddenly a lot of people know the same thing, it means they don’t respect your privacy and you cannot trust them.
The Conversation Is Almost Always Focused on Them
It’s normal to talk about your problems, accomplishments, and other life issues with a friend but a friend who only talks about their own life whenever you are together is self-centered, and is using your time together for stroking their ego.
They Don’t Respect Your Wishes
With a friend like this it doesn’t matter what you want and feel comfortable with. They will constantly pressure you to do things you don’t like and put you down if you express discomfort.
They Leave You Alone in Dangerous Situations
If your friend doesn’t bother to do anything to get you away from a dangerous situation, for example leaves you drunk or asleep at a party where you don’t know anyone well, or lets you drive drunk without even trying to stop you, it means they don’t care about your safety. That is a clear indicator your friend doesn’t care about you much and that you cannot trust them very well. Of course, you cannot expect from your friends to be your caregivers, and you should take responsibility for your bad decisions, but a friend who truly cares about will at least try to do something to get you out of a bad situation.